It's not an ick.
I often wonder how I could be so nonchalant. How something could happen and I could withdraw so easily, like literally go silent, then take a day to myself to process my emotions on it, really think it through, live with my feelings on it, be miserable about it (if required), and then decide not to engage. Like make a really active decision and then stand on it. People would wonder too, it would wind up those involved, constant “let’s talk about it” and “how can you be like that” conversations, always as though it was a bad thing that I refuse to be reactive about whatever ‘it’ is. And I always listen, I always consider these conversations, I always wonder ‘would/should I say something? have the convo? rip the band aid off?’ and 9 times out of 10 I would always conclude the same thing - No. People will tell you that it’s an ick or it’s wrong or it stems from some sort of trauma, but I’ve really learned myself (still learning) and in previous situations I’ve either been too quick to pro...